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Banana nut is one of the most cherished desserts and one of the easiest recipes to prepare!
300 g of chocolate
250 g butter
300 g old
1 sachet of baking powder
scent of rom
1 sachet of vanilla sugar
200 g flour
Method of preparation
Clean the bananas and cut into slices or cubes, then put them in a bowl. To avoid rust, you can sprinkle them with a little lemon juice.
In a saucepan, melt the butter and add the pieces of chocolate. After the chocolate has melted, cook it on the fire, add the sugar, the essence of rum and the vanilla sugar bag. Stir until the sugar has melted, then allow the composition to cool slightly.
Add eggs, one at a time, and stir continuously after each egg, until well incorporated.
Then put the flour in the rain and mix well.
Line a tray with butter and flour and pour half a composition. Put the bananas over and then pour the other half.
Leave in the oven for about 50 minutes and check with the toothpick.
Powder with sugar and cut into cubes for serving.
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How to recover from a bad birth experience
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For months, you prepared for the perfect birth. You took childbirth classes, read books, went to all your prenatal appointments, and practiced breathing exercises. Maybe you even hired a doula.
Then life threw you a curveball.
You ended up in the hospital after planning a home birth. Or you got an epidural when you were hoping to go med-free. Maybe you needed a cesarean section when you were sure you'd deliver vaginally.
In any case, instead of having the profound, beautiful experience you imagined, you felt frightened, powerless, overwhelmed, and possibly alone.
There are countless ways that giving birth can surprise you. And as a new mom, you may feel upset and even guilty if things don't go the way you'd planned. But you're definitely not alone in struggling with the aftermath of a disappointing or difficult birth experience. Here are some steps for recovery:
Help your body heal
Unfortunately, a difficult birth often makes for a more difficult physical recovery. You may be dealing with a bad tear or a painful incision. You're probably stunned and exhausted, too.
Your body needs to recover, and the best way to do that is to rest – easier said than done now that you have a newborn. The key is to focus on yourself and your baby, and let the other things slide. This means letting the dishes pile up in the sink, procrastinating on thank you notes and phone calls, and ignoring the vacuum cleaner.
"Remember, your baby doesn't care if you haven't taken a shower or if your kitchen's a disaster," say Devra Renner and Aviva Pflock, authors of Mommy Guilt: Learn to Worry Less, Focus on What Matters Most, and Raise Happier Kids.
Take help from anyone who offers it. If people want to bring you dinner, don't turn them down. You can even request mood-boosting foods or the fixings for some healthy snacks.
To help care for older children, hire a sitter, ask a friend or family member to pitch in, or add a preschool day to your child's schedule. You might also want to temporarily relax your television restrictions for older kids – during this chaotic time, a little extra screen time probably won't hurt.
Mourn your "dream birth"
At nearly 42 weeks pregnant, Karen Solomon desperately wanted her labor to start on its own. "I didn't want my baby to be rushed," she explains. "And I wanted labor to be a fun surprise. Maybe I'd be playing a game of checkers, for example, and suddenly I'd feel that first contraction."
But before her labor could start, Solomon developed preeclampsia and had to be induced. She ended up having an epidural and a c-section instead of the medication-free vaginal delivery she had hoped for. "I grieved, deeply and truly," she wrote in her journal.
It can be emotionally wrenching when your baby's delivery resembles a medical school film instead of the beautiful, transcendent videos from your childbirth class. "I feel like I missed out on a really important experience," says one mom.
Well-meaning people may unintentionally make things worse by saying, "At least you have a healthy baby." While this is a wonderful thing, it doesn't mean you aren't allowed to feel upset or that you should dismiss your feelings.
To resolve your sadness, you first need to face it. So try to let go of any ideas that you "shouldn't" feel this way. "Your feelings are real and valid. Acknowledge them," says Michele Moore, a family physician and coauthor of Cesarean Section: Understanding and Celebrating Your Baby's Birth.
Talk it out
Many people find that talking about what happened helps them work through their disappointment. "A circle of friends can be wonderfully supportive," says Moore. You may also want to try a support group or visit an online group for women who had difficult or upsetting births, like the one in BabyCenter's Community.
It may also help to talk to your healthcare provider to get another account of the events surrounding your delivery. This can put your experience in perspective and answer lingering questions.
If you like to write, try journaling about your experience. Treat yourself to a beautiful journal from a bookstore, search online for a free journaling app, or keep a simple document journal on your tablet, phone, or computer. "I knew I had a problem when a friend sent an email describing the birth of their first child and how beautiful and peaceful it was, and I went into a rage. I started writing about my experience and admitting how much it hurt me," says one mom.
Working with a therapist can also help you sort out your feelings and come to terms with your difficult birth experience. Alyse Levine, who delivered her second child by emergency c-section after her daughter's heart rate dropped, recently started therapy to talk about unresolved sadness related to the birth.
"The sadness was initially from the c-section and the tough recovery but later transferred more to discovering I had a chronic illness," Levine says. Also, "my daughter had a bad cut on her scalp from the in-utero heart monitor that was attached to her head. She has a permanent and rather large scar."
Says Levine: "I need a safe haven to deal with this."
Some birth experiences are traumatic, not just disappointing, and can cause long-lasting emotional and physical repercussions. It is possible to have post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) after a difficult delivery.
When you have PTSD, you may relive the experience through flashbacks or nightmares. You may also have trouble sleeping, have panic or anxiety attacks, or feel a sense of detachment. PTSD can also make it hard for you to breastfeed, bond with your baby, or have sex after childbirth.
If you think you may have PTSD, it's important to talk to a mental health professional. Ask your healthcare provider for a referral to someone with expertise in this area.
Don't blame yourself
"How many of you are going to use a dangerous epidural for your own selfish comfort?" scolds the childbirth instructor in the comedy Baby Mama. The line is firmly tongue-in-cheek, but the truth is women often feel guilty for receiving any kind of intervention during labor, from IV medication to a vacuum extraction to a c-section.
"I felt like I failed, my body failed, and everything just went haywire," says Levine. For some women, the feeling that they "failed the first test" by not being able to have an unmedicated and uncomplicated vaginal birth can affect how competent they feel as mothers.
As Moore puts it: "Women with c-sections or difficult births may have the feeling that they are starting off already behind in their mothering."
The truth is that you did not fail. Labor and birth are different for everyone – and some are simply more complicated than others. Medical interventions can be necessary to save the life of a mother and child. Medications for pain relief during labor are often warranted and necessary.
Try to reframe your feelings: You're not a failure – you're a survivor. You got through a terrible ordeal, and so did your baby. If anything, this gives you extra preparation for parenthood, which is full of unexpected ordeals.
Look at what went right
Even though you didn't get the birth you hoped for, try to consciously remind yourself of the things that went right. You may even want to make a list, suggests Moore. This can provide some much-needed perspective. As Karen Solomon puts it, "Natural childbirth would have just been the cherry on the sundae. I still got my kid."
It can be hard to see what did go well in a complicated and traumatic birth, especially if you or your baby suffered an injury, or worse. If you're having trouble, talk with your doctor about counseling. You may also want to get support from moms in BabyCenter's community who are also grappling with the aftermath of a difficult delivery.
Ignore the judgments
"I could handle the pain. I just put my mind to it," boasts your neighbor who had a drug-free home birth. "It's too bad you didn't deliver vaginally, there's nothing like it," your sister-in-law emails. These comments can be painful, but try not to let them get to you.
Moore, who had a c-section herself, handled her fair share of judgmental comments by consciously reminding herself of her baby's health. "I reflected on the fact that my baby was as wonderful as theirs," she says.
Try not to judge yourself, either. You may be disappointed with yourself for feeling frustrated about your delivery experience, especially if you thought your expectations were realistic. But don't give in to those feelings of guilt – childbirth is emotionally intense no matter what, and it's okay to feel the way you do.
Sometimes physical or emotional conditions can make it even harder to recover from a bad birth experience. Having the blues for more than two weeks can signal postpartum depression. Lingering fatigue, sleep problems, and lack of energy can be a sign of thyroid problems that some women experience in the year after giving birth.
If any of these symptoms are adding to the difficulty of recovering from birth trauma, let your healthcare provider know. If you're struggling with thoughts about hurting yourself or your baby, call your local crisis hotline or go to your hospital's emergency room immediately.
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