My 2-year-old has a fit every time I tell him to wait a minute. What should I do?

My 2-year-old has a fit every time I tell him to wait a minute. What should I do?

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Nursery, nanny, grandmother, or what childcare looks like when mom returns to work I knew well one day after the birth of my child that I would have to go back to work. That a stranger will have to watch over him - also. That the election would prove to be more difficult than I thought - I did not know until I had to face them.

The main problem for a mother who returns to work is that she must leave her little child in other hands. Parents who have grandmothers and grandparents to help are largely lucky, for two reasons: first - they entrust the baby to people they trust; the other - they save about a thousand zlotys a month. Because we do not belong with the partner to the lucky ones who have grandparents "on hand", we had to choose from other available options.

Babysitter? Nursery? Grandmother?

The popular opinion is that the child should be "with the mother" for as long as possible, but hardly anyone can afford to look after the child until they reach the age of 3 and start the pre-school stage. We couldn't either. We did not have the opportunity to involve families, and we associated nurseries with illnesses. So the choice fell immediately: guardian. But what to consider when choosing it?

If a nanny, what?

We sat down with a partner over tea and cakes trying to put together our chaotic thoughts and expectations of potential candidates. It became a preference for a young person who is available due to the nature of me and my work partner (I - standard working time, often in the evenings, sometimes on weekends; partner - a few months at home, a few outside), with specialized education and experience in childcare. So, full of enthusiasm, I set up an account on, published an ad and ... after 2 days, howled with despair.

The candidates could not read, their statements were blowing desperately and I would not entrust even their own, though nice, though lazy cat to their protection. Maybe I'm exaggerating, maybe I'm tense, but if I write that I'm looking for a 35-year-old candidate, what the hell is my application doing to Mrs. Krysia, 55, Stasi, 50 and Gabrysi, what seven grandchildren have raised and even with the devil pact signed, it doesn't have strength for her to be 35? If I am looking as close to my housing estate as possible, why 10 people write to me that distance is not a problem because they are motorized? And the best: I am looking for availability, and finds 15 offers from mothers with children ... After all, they will want to spend time with their children just like any parent, so availability is rather poor, apart from the fact that he can infect his children from mine, or vice versa.

There is regression and unemployment in the country, everyone grabs what they can, but caring for a child is neither easy nor light or pleasant, let alone responsibility. From 42 applications I chose two candidates who - in my opinion - had a chance to meet our expectations.

How to conduct a job interview with a babysitter?

I thought for a long time about how to check the person to entrust a child to me? What to ask What to check In the flood of thoughts, I decided that it makes no sense to ask for references, because such can be issued by every friend. Question about experience will also be rather pro forma - the course of work is almost unverifiable. I came from the assumption that the main criterion for me would be whether the guardian would inspire the trust of my less than a year and a half daughter, whether she would be able to "buy in" her favors, as well as full availability and honesty, of course, in addition to the obvious expectations of experience and education in the field.

Both candidates liked my daughter, and me, too, but because I faced the necessity of choosing myself, I decided to give the chance to the one of whom I would not be the only source of income (it is easier to settle my hours than to give a fixed salary regardless of the duration of work, what one of them expected of me).

Nice bad beginnings - nanny O.

I invited Ms. O. to cooperate, and so began my first and last adventure with the babysitter. I will write briefly that Ms. O. was a psychologist by education without a diploma, she worked as a play animator for children and a caregiver - it sounded sensible. As a babysitter with my child, she worked flawlessly ... until. I have always said that with everything you can come to an agreement and get along, but I expect honesty. My work did not allow me to predict specific hours of return - I warned the candidates about it and they agreed that it was not a problem. Bah! Ms. O. even worked in my trade, so she knew the inside out.

Despite this, after some time, I began to feel small doubts. My daughter completely stopped enjoying her sight, there was no progress in making potty, and I was more and more often faced with appeased requests for the content of "Asia, if this is not a problem, could I finish at 15 today? I have to pick up the results in the hospital "or" Asia, what time do you finish today? Because the fiancé (his name is said here) ends his work today at 4pm and he can come for me, but if that's a problem, no problem "- such and many others began to appear several times a week.

So I expected a conversation in which the nanny would say that she was expecting something different - I don't know, maybe fewer hours (for all she was paid - always 8 zlotys per hour), maybe something else. Meanwhile, I didn't see anything like that. I accounted for Ms. O. once a week - on Fridays. I never cheated on her - I always noted meticulously in her notebook her hours to come and go and accounted for them with an accuracy of a quarter of an hour, usually in favor of a babysitter. And what? And I was cheated.

On the eve of Christmas Eve I was at work. Mrs. O. wanted to finish faster because she was traveling with her fiance to her hometown for Christmas. I think it's hard - let me give her a little ride to work and go faster.

I handed her a pay envelope and a bag of chocolates for Christmas. She asked if the break between the holidays was current (I had to appear at work, because seven out of ten employees were choosing mandatory leave), so I replied, truthfully, that yes and I'm sorry (reason: she will not be able to stay in her hometown any more).

She said it wasn't a problem because her fiancé had to get back to work anyway. On the eve of work she started to write messages that she would like to come not at 10:00, as we agreed, but at 12:00, because there is a sale of wedding dresses and she has an amazing opportunity to buy a new dress at the old price (she got married in June). I was angry but I asked the manager for a dispensation for these two hours. He agreed. At 11:50 she was supposed to be at my place, meanwhile at 11:40 I got a text saying that she would not appear, she apologizes, but it was very important for her. I called 3 times - she did not answer, the fourth call was rejected.

Proposal? She wasn't even going to come for the break between the holidays, her fiance didn't have to go back to work. I couldn't go to work, so I had to bring my daughter with me. She was very brave, but terribly exhausted, and I was angry at my naivety and the person I entrusted the child to, who turned out to be extremely irresponsible. I didn't hear from her neither sorry nor anything more.

Help! I need a nanny now!

Smarter about experience, I had to find a babysitter as soon as possible - from day to day I remained without help to my child, because my partner went to work for several months.

Fortunately, my sister came back from abroad and she could move in while looking for a nanny. We analyzed all the pros and cons, we were looking for my mistakes, but I really just had bad luck. Smarter about bad experience, so I was editing my advertisement on, I made it more precise and set my expectations very carefully so as not to waste my time and the candidates' time. It went into the ether. Answer: 15. Krys, 13 mothers with children, 10 commuters. My hands have fallen. This time I chose 3 potential candidates. One suffered from purulent angina and could not come. I rejected the second one, and the third came to the interview. Nice, tangible, she didn't beat around the bush. I wanted to choose her, but I decided to give myself a little more time not to make the same mistake as in the last case.


At that time, the owner of "Malczak's Corner" in my neighborhood spoke to me - a place was vacant and she wanted to offer me cooperation. I was happy - the private nursery, because I think it should be called it, was a solution that I considered before, but they were all located too far from my housing estate. Commutes and returns would take too much time. However, my enthusiasm subsided when I calculated my situation in the cold: the corner works on weekdays from 7:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. and I happen to work both longer and on Saturdays.

The owner of the corner has dispelled my fears. After 18:00 my daughter could stay in the corner for an additional fee, on Saturdays I could ask for help in looking after one of the two babysitters looking after children on weekdays (of course also for an extra charge). Conditions: the ground floor of the owner's single-family house, ten children, three babysitters, contact with other children whose rotation was negligible, PLN 600 per month + their own meals, drinks and snacks that the ladies heat in the microwave. I decided to try.

First cats for fences

The children's living room was a living room with a kitchenette. In addition, there was a bedroom with blankets and baby pillows on mattresses, and diapers in the corner, spare clothes, etc. My daughter's first contact with a group of loud children caused a catastrophic roar! I undressed her a little bit and entered the living room, she calmed down. She sat on my lap for about 5 minutes, then she began to watch the children closely, and after less than a quarter of an hour she sucked away from me and went to explore the area. After half an hour it was "sold". A friendly atmosphere, toys other than at home, a lot of news and ordinary children's curiosity have won. The next day I decided that my sister would take my daughter to the corner, sit with her for about half an hour and try to go out for about three hours. Effect? After 15 minutes, my sister went home because she had no reason to sit there. Lila, embarrassed by the new place, children and games, did not pay attention to her aunt at all.

After a few weeks I can safely say that it was a very good idea. The daughter stopped being afraid of other children, she learned to cooperate and play with the group, she has a normalized mode of the day, she doesn't get bored, she learns about games, songs and dances - in a word: she develops and it is probably better than with a boring mother. Minuses, of course, are, and the most obvious are diseases.

After the second day, the daughter returned sick, but we do not really know where the disease came from - from another child, from taking various foreign objects to the mouth, maybe from the floor (the daughter does not like to wear slippers - she runs in the socks only), or maybe that's why that in the evening we were on a long walk and she could catch a cold. Fortunately, it happened just before the weekend, during which I firmly showered her with vitamin C, lime (Sanosvit), syrup for the first symptoms of the disease (Sambucol) and a solution of sea salt for runny nose (hypertonic marimer). On Tuesday, a small man proudly walked to the nursery.

My observations: the child is joyful, willingly goes to the nursery, learns various games with his peers, undergoes his first love (half a year old Rysio necessarily wants to kiss), gets used to separation with his mother, but most importantly - I see that he feels safe.

Pros and cons

To sum up: from the solutions available to parents, we can consider the help of a family (sisters, aunts, grandparents), a babysitter, a public nursery (which registration is carried out at least once a year, therefore free space is rather rare) and - thanks to the amendment to the nursery law - toddler clubs becoming more and more popular.

If you consider the financial aspect, the cheapest is to help the family, although it is difficult to ask someone for help for several hours a day. Public nurseries are cheaper than toddler clubs; depending on the city, prices range from 200-500 PLN per month, while in public nurseries it is always possible to prepare meals (toddler clubs usually do not have this option for sanitary reasons). In private nurseries, the price range is huge. In Toruń alone, prices range from 500-800 PLN. In Poznań from 900-1400. The scope of services also varies: from basic care (fun, hygiene) to language learning, corrective gymnastics, meal preparation, etc.

Unless you know the case of a friend tiger, who - like in the "Jungle Book" - will raise our comfort for a good, brave man, it remains only to take care of the babysitter and nursery. For the lucky there is also the option of grandmother, if he does not capitulate at a stress-free monster.

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This is how the fetus develops

This is how the fetus develops

Incredible changes take place inside you, as you enjoy months of anticipation: there is something exciting every day from the first weeks to the last!

This is how the fetus develops

The pregnancy is divided into three quarters and three trimesters. What happens in a trimester? Read about how your baby develops, how the embryo fetus will be! A brief overview of a long journey with the help of There are puppies who are almost whole first trimester "lags", since the first few weeks of pregnancy are unnoticeable. In the first few weeks after conception, the only egg cell division to date is. A lean cell develops a placenta, the rest become an embryo. Imagine the latter as a four-layer disk in which each layer represents important things. The outer layer, the ectoderm, takes care of the skin, hair, gums and the nervous system. The inner layer, the endoderma of the intestines and the lungs develop. Medium layers are responsible for the growth of the heart, bones, and muscles. The 3-week embryo is less than 0.5 cm in size and has an oval shape. In the next few weeks, he will begin to develop an ubiquitous ubiquitous form, with an increasingly elaborate shape, an embryo head and a tail. The spinal cord, brain, heart, small eyes, arms and legs begin to take shape. At week 4, his face begins to form, his ears, nose, and mouth open. By the time she is 8 weeks old, her head is incredibly large with respect to her body, and by that time the embryo is about 3.5 cm, which from that week on is known as a fetus. His toes and toes appear, his tiny little heart beating. 5 weeks embryo By the time you reach the end of your first trimester, the fetal genitals will develop, the teeth appear in the mouth, and the fetus will breathe and swallow amniotic fluid. Although the organs of the body have begun to form, the fetus unable to live without the womb. Many mothers look at themselves in the mirror at the third month of their pregnancy because they can't wait to see their raised tummy. This is usually the case in the second trimester. 12 weeks embryo THE second trimester at first the fetus starts to move, but it is so small, only 10 cm, and the weight is so small (about 0.1 kg) that the mother still does not bear it. Usually this occurs on the 5th month of pregnancy, when many babies reach 15 cm in height and 0.5 kg in weight. Hair on the body and on the head appear. While many mothers feel uncomfortable in the second trimester, others would specifically consider this the calmest period, because by that time their pregnant nausea is gone, but their belly is too long to make their daily life difficult. 19 weeks old fetus THE third trimester the fetus is fully developed, all body parts and organs have the size it needs to stay alive, the last three months barely "grow" small. At 7 months pregnant, your baby is 35-43 cm long and weighs 1 kg. Thin, red, and wrinkled skin begins to thicken, with a whitish, soft, silky coat, lanugo covering the body, which helps keep the baby's skin adherent, which is responsible for protecting the skin. If the baby were to be born now, You would have a 60% chance of a life with adequate medical care. This chance is already 90% in the 8th month. By this time, the fetus can be up to 45 cm long and 1.5-2 kg. 32 weeks old fetus Month 9 is about the final preparations. The baby's lungs are still developing a lot, losing fat underneath the skin, which removes wrinkles. Much of the lanugo disappears. The baby is approximately 50 cm long, 2.5 to 3.5 kg. He's big and strong enough to be born, and his life is over.Related articles on fetal development:
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Influenza: the key to prevention

Dr. Holpert Valeria, a pharynx doctor, a phylogeny doctor, has been asked about the best practices to avoid or transmit the flu in addition to vaccination.

Influenza: the key to prevention

Really use a handkerchief!

Influenza is known to spread through drip infection. On a holiday, about 40,000 tiny droplets of air fall into the air, and the influenza-like viruses float to the air and reach even greater distances. Therefore, it is very important that if you or someone in the environment is ill, put a hand or handkerchief in front of your mouth to prevent the spread of airborne pathogens!

Take time to wash!

The state-of-the-art anti-bacterial and fragrant handicaps do not make any difference if used in a bulky way. Let's take at least 20 seconds, rub your hands and don't forget to rinse thoroughly!

Do not visit the patient!

Many people do not rest even when they are already ill. This not only makes it difficult for them to heal themselves, but it can also easily infect others. It is also unfortunate if we get back to work soon, unlike weekly, we can get the flu virus not only after 3 days, but up to 5-7 days later.

Wear a mask!

Keeping an adequate distance is much more difficult if our family member who is living with us becomes ill. In such cases, only the use of handkerchiefs, regular washing, and the wearing of a health protective mask covering the nose and mouth can help prevent the spread of pathogens.

You know what you're sick of!

Although common in the winter and symptoms of the flu may be similar, there are a few differences that make it possible for us to decide for ourselves which disease we feel bad about. High fever and severe headaches are less common, and muscle aches and severe fatigue are also common in influenza. Fatigue can recover from fatigue and weakness for up to two to three weeks. Sore throat is a common symptom in all diseases, but nasal congestion and nausea are signs of urticaria. Cough can also occur in both cases, but in the case of influenza it can be much more severe and fatal.

Sleep a lot, eat and exercise!

The sentence above contains, in fact, everything we need to know about how to reduce the risk of winter sickness. Research has shown that those who sleep less - 7 ounces a day - fall ill. Let's try to eat differently and move on! Not only does this increase our resilience, but it is also a great tool for relieving stress that weakens the immune system.Related articles about influenza:
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Barni pie now has 45% fruit content in the filling and can be the right choice when you want to give the little one a delicious snack between meals.

"Barni has been on the Romanian cakes market for 5 years, until now registering sales of over 100 million teddy bears. Our small consumers enjoy in approximately equal proportions the 3 existing flavors: chocolate, milk and strawberry filling. These results they encouraged us to develop the range and to meet the consumers with a delicious new product: Barni with apple filling. Also, the strawberry version now has an improved recipe, "says Andreea Bogdan, Senior Brand Manager Biscuits - Kraft Foods Romania , part of Mondelēz International.

Children consume a wide range of products that ensure their daily nutritional intake. Studies have shown that fruits are the most often offered alternative for little ones when they want a snack, and apples and strawberries are top of their preferences.

"We know that children enjoy a variety of snacks and mothers want to offer them healthier products. Due to its ingredients, Barni can be a good choice for a balanced snack, eaten with a fruit or a dairy product," concludes Andreea Bogdan.

Barni is a fluffy cake, suitable for tasting children, without colorings or preservatives.

It is made with simple and quality ingredients: cereals, eggs, milk, fruits. The 30g individual serving, with the happy teddy bear shape, is suitable for the baby's tasting. All 4 flavors are available in both the 30g format and the 150g box.